Love Is All Around, Day 3

We need you to come back for more tests.

Really? Is there something wrong?

It seems like one of the tests came back positive for a genetic disorder. Do genetic disorders run in either of your families?

I spoke of a second cousin who had some sort of genetic disorder but could not remember the name. He mentioned two second cousins who were born with Down’s.

There may be a chance that the baby has a genetic disorder called … Babies born with this rarely live longer than four months. I remembered she said that there are other options.

I knew which one she was referring to.

Absolutely not.

I am adamantly pro-choice but I knew with all my heart that that was not a choice for me.

Disbelief. Stunned. Silence.


She said to him, “I don’t care. It is our baby. OUR baby that is already inside me. The baby is ours. The baby is already perfect.”

Love Is All Around, Day 2

She had a feeling about this visit. It wasn’t just because the next step of his journey would determine the course of their love affair. To her, being stationed overseas meant an inevitable end. To her, being stationed across the country could mean the same thing.


She had no qualms about moving across the country for him. No reservations whatsoever. The career she just began would be on hold. Who knows for how long?

Even though she had an inexplicable, wonderful feeling about him, she couldn’t do all of that without something more.

It would be a hard life, he warned.

She knew that. Life was hard anyway, no matter what.

She was ready.

He was too.

He showed just how ready by walking along the wharf hand in hand as they had done dozens of times. He kept putting his hands in his pocket, fumbling around for the trillion diamond ring he bought the month before.

They left the wharf engaged to be married, commtted to make their relationship last, and ready for whatever stood in their way.

Love Is All Around, Day 1

I have never been a “big gesture” kind of girl. I never wanted giant bouquets of flowers, huge teddy bears on my doorstep, or even a lavish marriage proposal.

Flowers die. Eventually. I can’t even keep house plants alive, let alone those tiny rosebud plants that are everywhere during the month of February.

Teddy bears are kinda cheesy to me. I am even eyeing some of the stuffed animals upstairs in the kids’ rooms. These animals WANT to go to charity. It is in their destiny. Really.

As far as marriage proposals go, ours was perfect, thankyouverymuch, in that it involved us.

Don’t get me wrong. I DID get some nice bling for our tenth wedding anniversary. I wouldn’t give it back for anything.

But still, planning spectacular dates, particularly Valentine’s Day, implies that love is only around that day instead of every day.

Now I’m not criticizing you if this is what you prefer. We all like different things as further explained by the following list:

How does he show me he loves me?
* I say, “I’m having a bad day.” His responses have included the following: “Get a pedicure.” “Go to Starbucks. I’ll watch the kids.” “I’ll cook dinner. You go ahead and get something for yourself out in town by yourself.”
* I say, “I want to [insert activity here that may cost some money or take time away from family] with…/by myself.” He agrees.
* I want any combination and number of pets and he begrudgingly approves because he knows how happy they woild make me/the kids.
* He doesn’t laugh at me when I am having a dumbass moment.
* On Taco Bell nights when I don’t want to partake, he will get me a large diet Coke anyway.
* He makes sure there is an emergency chocolate bar in the pantry, out of view from the kids, and only for me. Oh, and it’s always Cadbury milk chocolate, no nuts.
* He won’t tell me right away if I snore so I won’t be embarassed. He’ll bring it up later. Way later.
* One of my hobbies is Random Dancing. He joins me even though he hates dancing.
* No sexting for us but we are goofy with technology. Case in point: he was jonesing for some fried chicken and when he found a KFC, he sent me a pic of a bronze statue. Yep, it was the Colonel. Yep, it kinda freaked me out for a sec.
* We still hold hands, even in public. Even when we are watching a movie on TV.
* He has never discouraged me from anything I have wanted to do. Except for sewing on account of the sewing incident when I was seven months pregnant with the first which resulted in me calling 911. Except for having a fourth baby. Okay, except for those two things.
* He agreed to geobachelorhood until retirement.

And the list goes on and on. So maybe I am NOT a “big gesture” kind of girl. That’s okay. Everything my husband does feels like a big gesture.

Do you love big gestures? What was your favorite V Day date? What are your plans for V Day?