Up here in Sacramento, some of the elementary schools are year round. The kids have been in school for eight days and so far, so good.

You really can’t go wrong when you don’t have to worry about Daddy leaving.

I have to say I feel a bit spoiled. Very surreal for the past month. I can sleep in on school days! Imagine that! We can take turns getting the kids ready for school.

I have help. I have a spouse. I have a partner.

Most importantly, I don’t have to do it all.

I was definitely in denial at first. Even after two weeks of R being home, I still felt like I had to do everything. Never ending laundry piles. Dishes galore. Parenting! Oh, the parenting!

My husband had left the Navy a month ago and the tasks he’s completed since then is nuts. Effing nuts!

Got caught up with bills (some military spouses feel me, right?). Found a job. Re-fucking-financed the goddamned house to save 2% interest, translating to a savings of ALMOST $700 a month! What the heck?!

A part of me felt embarrassed about how much he’s been able to do. Why couldn’t I do any of that? I’ve been here for five goddamned years!

But not once has R made me feel that way. Not once.

I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to have our family complete again. When R was gone, the kids were amazing. They could teach workshops in resiliency, seriously with all the crap they’ve had to go through.

Today after school I asked the kids what was their favorite part of having Daddy home. Our oldest son M said it best: “Well, he’s never been here so… Everything.”

First day of school. L, 6 years old, 1st grade.


A, 8 years old, 3rd grade.


M, 11 years old, 6th grade. I said, “Come on, let’s take a picture together!” He said, “I don’t feel very comfortable right now!”


MilSpouse Friday Fill-In #3

So over on Wife of a Sailor (http://wifeofasailor.com; I still don’t know how to make that blue link appear), Wife posts questions for other bloggers to answer on their own military spouse blogs. (Still with me so far?) And since I don’t want to declutter the living room, I thought this might be fun to fill out while I’m pretending to rest with my eyes closed.

Feel free to put on your own blogs and/or comment with your own answers. Have a great weekend!

1. Underwear parties: How old is too old?
I’m probably interpreting this wrong but I’m going to go with the parties that women attend to purchase different kinds of… um, massagers. If this is the case, then you’re never too old for those parties!

2. What was your favorite class in high school?
I loved marine biology. I had teachers in high school but very few educators. Among that talented and dedicated bunch was my chemistry teacher who by one single comment in class (“And you have a… ‘C’ for the quarter. Wait, no. Wow, you brought it up to a ‘B+’. Good job.”) changed the way I looked at learning. He challenged us every day not because he was an @sshole who wanted to give us homework for a paycheck but because he loved science and had extremely high expectations.
After chemistry I took marine biology with him and I was in heaven. I loved loved loved the subject and thought that I was going to work in the Monterey Bay Aquarium when I grew up. Though I’m not doing that exactly, I share this excitement and love of learning with my children and any other children who I come in contact with.

3. Have you ever convinced packers/movers to pack something they aren’t supposed to for a PCS?
No. We aren’t very interesting.

4. Blogging plays a growing role in the media. If you were asked to embed as a blogger with a deployed military unit, would you go? What do you think your blog would be like?
I would consider it and go if my husband and I decided it was a good move. I would go on the conditions that I wouldn’t be censored, that I would remain impartial to events around me, and that I would have to also participate in humanitarian efforts such as rebuilding schools or buildings, child care, etc. That said, I don’t see a line to recruit me at my door.

5. Do you think kids should attend year-round school?
My kids already attend a year-round school. As a teacher and parent, it benefits all children. Teachers and students get regular extended breaks during the school year and parents don’t have kids who turn into couch potatoes for ten weeks in the summer. However, it is more cost-effective for districts to adhere to the traditional school year.

Your turn!