MilSpouse Friday Fill-In #10

So over on Wife of a Sailor (Yes! The link is up! Thanks, Rain into Rainbows!), Wife posts questions for other bloggers to answer on their own military spouse blogs. (Still with me so far?) And since I’m watching the Gaga rerun on Glee, I thought this might be fun to fill out while watching Idina the goddess herself belt out “Funny Girl”. She (and all of the other Broadway stars on that show) must be AMAZING in person. Still holding out for Jonathon Groff! *swoon*

Feel free to put on your own blogs and/or comment with your own answers. Have a great weekend!

1. Facebook or Twitter?

I’d have to go with Facebook because most of our family and friends are on it. It is so simple to upload pictures and provide updates of our family. Twitter is fun too because I get to “follow” LeVar Burton and Judy Blume.

2. Hard Tacos or Soft Tacos?

Soft tacos. Hard tacos break too easily. Nachos are a good alternative to hard tacos. I prefer a good fish taco from Rubios. Breaded and fried fish, shredded cabbage, a smidge of guac and white cream sauce, topped with pico de gallo in a corn tortilla. Yum!

3. Gardening or crafting?

Definitely crafting. I can’t grow anything except babies. As a young milspouse, I tried everything from sewing to knitting. Didn’t fail, more like lost motivation. The only thing I’m really good at is baking.

And eating baked goods. My bad. That’s two things.

4. Fruit or vegetables?

I would say fruit, especially in the summer when everything is ripe, fresh, and cheap! I am coming around to liking vegetables and thinking outside of the salad box.

5. Motorcycle or bicycle?

I loved riding my bike until I realized I was paying more in flat tires than the bike itself. Something thorny grows everywhere and it drives me nuts. Definitely NO to motorcycles. We’ve known too many who have been injured in motorcycle accidents. One of R’s best friends was in a fatal motorcycle accident about eleven years ago.

Your turn!

Hot Greek men, strip clubs, and cheating

Last weekend I embarked on a rite of passage that I thought I’d never reach. I am a married single mother of three in my mid-thirties. What else did I want to do when my husband finally came into town after being apart for three months?

I went to a club and got drunk.

I went to college in San Francisco and took full advantage of the night life. Huge clubs the size of department stores. Deafening music. Ridiculous cover charges that my set and I never paid, VIP list all the way, thankyouverymuch.

Some weekends started on a Thursday night and ended in the wee hours of Monday morning. Not all weekends but enough to make me think twice about wearing platforms or wedges to Target.

Just twice. I still put those lavender wedges on to go to Target. Rowrrr.

So when I mentioned to some friends that my husband would be in town and that I’d like to get drunk and go dancing or go dancing and get drunk… well, I had a handful of amigas step up to the plate.

While I can’t say how many shots were thrown back or how many rounds were on me, I do recall several questionable moments.

There was an alleged reggae band playing when we got there. At least that’s what they thought they were playing. Some of the audience members kicked off their shoes to dance. Others swayed to the music in irregular rhythms.

I chose the Electric Slide. Then the Running Man. And finally the signature New Kids on the Block side-kicking move.

It was brilliant. Really.

There was a group of women wearing hideous prom dresses on purpose. Really. One of the women was having a bachelorette party. I am pretty sure I bought a round of shots for my friends and included the bride-to-be.

Upstairs a DJ played more drunk-friendly hits like early Dr. Dre and Adele’s “Rolling in the Deep” mashed up with “Sweet Dreams” by the Eurythmics. When I heard Her Majesty Gaga, I believe I was the only one on the dance floor and may have Vogue’d a little. Don’t be a drag, just be a queen! Holla!

One moment that was not questionable was when I went outside for fresh air. I danced from the moment I got there until I went outside to text a quick “I love you” to my husband. I walked back upstairs and noticed a man drinking a glass of red wine on the balcony. Who goes to a club and drinks wine? Fancy schmancy restaurant? Sure. But at a club at one in the morning? Really?

“They serve wine here?” I asked.

“It’s all I drink.” Ooh, how fancy.

We chatted a bit and got that he was single. After all, three in our party were single so hey, why not score some digits for them?

My friends teased me for a bit for talking to this cute Greek dude but like my husband, they knew they had nothing to worry about. I’m friendly and maybe I’m a bit of a flirt but I don’t consider that cheating.

My husband heard many tales of husbands cheating on their wives and wives cheating on their husbands. A friend of mine said if her husband ever went to a strip club, she would consider it cheating. Many wives equate porn with cheating.

I am not here to lecture or to judge your morals, relationship, or marriage that I know nothing of but I will share our simple and hard-fast rule about cheating: If you can’t do what you’re doing in front of your spouse, then it’s cheating.

We tell each other everything. Or at least I thought we did as discussed in a previous post that I’m too lazy to recall now. And I suspect another ball will be dropped in the next few weeks, pending authorization from my dear husband.

I do chat up men in front of my husband. I’m a talker. I’m nosy. I’m gonna ask you a bazillion questions. I am all those things in front of my husband, even if he’s cringing a bit from embarassment.

Do I meet random men, text them, friend them on Facebook? Absolutely not. I’ve never given my husband reason to be suspicious and vice versa.

I know what you’re thinking. Do I “let” my husband have girl friends? Is he allowed to go to strip joints? What does this respectable, young-ish, and albeit good-looking couple consider inappropriate?

I’d tell you but it’d be cheating.

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In #8

So over on Wife of a Sailor (; I still don’t know how to make that blue link appear), Wife posts questions for other bloggers to answer on their own military spouse blogs. (Still with me so far?) And since the kids are outside on the trampoline while my husband fires up the grill, I thought this might be fun to fill out while I’m watching Zombieland for the bazillionth time and listening to our big dog and new little dog fight in front of me.

1.If you could have a private concert with any singer, who would it be?

Do you even have to ask? EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! NEW KIDS ON THE BLOCK! EEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! I can’t even think about them without saying that vowel. I saw them twice in concert in my younger days, including free tickets for designing a poster for JCPenney. Before we made the move from Virginia to California, NKOTB announced their reunion tour and guess who got tickets for a concert three time zones away…

That’s right. That’s me, baby.

That's me in the middle. HAD to take pics with these random fans. Their shirts say, "I'M LEGAL NOW, DONNIE!"

It was the first concert in California before they announced more dates so the truly crazy fans made it to that San Jose show. Would you believe Lady Gaga opened for them and I was like, “Meh”? I chuckle at that now especially since I wanted to see her when she came to Sacramento this year.

"Blockhead 4 Ever" and "Once a Blockhead, Always a Blockhead"

Then I saw them again in Fresno and oh my goodness, it was awesome too! I would love to be one of those fans who keep seeing them and maybe even going on one of those fan cruises but I can’t justify seeing them when I’m not working. I’m sure they’ll be around for a long time.

2. Is there anything you do to supplement your family’s income?

I just started working as a substitute teacher in our kids’ district this past spring and I love it. I do miss being in the classroom but it is pretty nice not to have homework and be choosy about who you sub for and where you sub. Also I don’t always get to sub at my kids’ school but when I do it’s really convenient.

3.During your pregnancy (whether past, present, or future), what did you nickname your unborn baby before you knew the sex?

We didn’t know the sex of our son because he kept moving in the ultrasound so the technician couldn’t tell. I don’t recall any nicknames though I had a hunch he was a boy (eating protein nonstop was my clue) and called him Rafael. My husband didn’t like that name so we went with something else.

4. Have you ever won a blog giveaway? If so what did you win?

No, I haven’t. I just started following blogs when I first created mine. Still a newbie, I’m afraid.

5. If I looked into your refrigerator right now, what would I find?

What a time to ask! My husband is grilling for our daughter’s birthday tomorrow. There’s a huge beef brisket with a dry rub, several pounds of pork and chicken soaking in some sort of soy sauce and garlic Filipino marinade, homemade pico de gallo, leftover Sangria from the fourth of July, and other random produce for his spaghetti bolognese. We have A LOT of shanghai lumpia in the freezer and if you ask if I made it, I’ll say I fried it. Ha!